Help to stop domestic violence
Tuesday 12 August 2008
Domestic violence is a serious issue and sadly most of us either know someone who has been affected by it or have experienced it ourselves.
This is why Closer thinks the Bodyshop’s campaign 'Stop Violence in the Home', launched four years ago with Women’s Aid, is incredibly important and would like to ask for your support.
Shocking research has revealed that an average of two women a week are killed through violence experienced in their own home, and three out of ten women who attempt suicide do so because they are affected by it.
The Bodyshop’s campaign is trying to increase awareness, raise funds for the national domestic violence charity and help put a stop to domestic violence with the sale of The Body Shop's Lip Care Duo. The company conducted an independent survey which revealed that 59% of women are more likely to confide in a friend, if affected by domestic violence .
With this in mind, this year’s ‘Stop Violence In The Home’ campaign focuses on friendship and calls on all women to become empowered to make a stand against domestic violence; whether they are a victim or a friend.
If you want to help protect your friends, here are some signs to look out for and advise on what to do when you suspect they might be a victim of domestic violence.
Signs to look out for
* Has your friend recently become quieter or more withdrawn?
* Are you made to feel unwelcome or tense when her partner is nearby?
* Have you noticed bruises or cuts?
* Does she end phone calls or conversation suddenly when her partner appears?
* Socially, has she begun to see less of you and your friends?
How to help
* If you’re worried, show your concern by asking questions such as “You don’t look very happy, is everything OK at home?”. This gives your friend the chance to open up and confide in you.
* Be patient. Listen and don’t judge her. It is up to her to make decisions in her own time.
* You must not be critical of her partner. This could make her feel ashamed and may prevent her from confiding in you again.
* You must tell her that the violence isn’t her fault. Remind her that violence is a choice and that her partner is the only one responsible for his behaviour. Being honest with your friend will help her realise that her relationship isn’t healthy. Remind your friend that domestic violence is against the law and the police have to investigate.
* Encourage her to seek immediate confidential help from the police or contact Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808 2000 247.
*Most importantly, don’t give up on your friend. You might be her only lifeline.
*If you feel your friend is in immediate danger call the Police on 999. For support and information you can also contact the Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808 2000 247.
To find out more, go to www.stopviolenceinthehome.com and www.womensaid.org.uk or become a Facebook fan at http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Body-Shop/20750666707
Posted by joannek26
RE: Help to stop domestic violence
I was in a violent relationship and recieved no help from anyone I have letters that I got from MPs and councils saying that they could not help me. I lost my job my house and everything else through this and im still paying the council money for repairs that my ex--partner had done smashing up my house which I had reported to the police. I have no faith at all in the system and was probably just one of many people who have been through the same if it wasnt for my family I would most liklely be dead by now so I have no faith in the police,womens aid my local MPs or the council
Posted 24/04/2009 18:11:43