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'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Wednesday 22 September 2010

It’s the kind of behaviour that should appall any mother. Unruly Corey Mitchell, 17, and his brother John, 14, have been terrorising neighbours for years by throwing dog faeces into gardens, eggs at houses, shouting racist slurs and attacking innocent passers-by. But incredibly, their jobless mum Niki defends their behaviour and insists it “isn’t their fault,” claiming her boys lash out because they suffer from attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) – just like her.


Much to their neighbours’ relief, Niki’s teen tearaways have now been slapped with ASBOs after a court heard they’d subjected the neighbourhood to years of threats and abuse.

However, the court orders have outraged Niki, 41, who argues that her sons aren’t bad – just misunderstood.

Speaking as recent figures show the number of children getting into trouble with police has trebled in the last eight years, Niki claims: “My kids aren’t perfect, but it’s not their fault. It’s their illness. The neighbours have got it in for us and the police pin everything on my boys.”

Niki’s sons started wreaking havoc on their neighbourhood when Corey was just nine.

At the family’s three-bedroom council house in Crawley, West Sussex, the mum-of-five, who is married to an unemployed mechanic, explains: “The police arrested Corey for stealing sweets worth 70p. Since then he’s been convicted of three or four assaults and possession of cannabis.”

And younger sibling John, who’s been expelled from school, isn’t far behind.

“John’s police record includes two criminal damage offences  to school property,” Niki says.

“He was kicked out after disrupting classes with dinosaur noises and tapping. The teachers blamed him whenever something was thrown across the room and when he denied it they called him a liar. The boys lash out if they’re called liars. But they can’t help losing control – it’s the ADHD.”

Niki, who claims around £2,000 in benefits each month, was diagnosed with ADHD, a behavioural disorder characterised by attentional problems and hyperactivity, in 2006. Corey had previously been diagnosed in 2000, with John following more recently.  

“When the boys kick off it’s not a conscious choice – they have a disability,” she insists. “The rest of the time they’re really sweet. If I’m upset they give me a hug.”

Niki, who is also mum to sports instructor and ADHD sufferer Kyle, 20, even suspects her daughters Joni, 13, and Summer, two months, also have the condition.

“We’ve all got ADHD,” she says. “I can already see it in Summer – she’s always fidgeting.”

Since 2008, the police have been inundated with calls from terrified neighbours who say Corey and John shout abuse, fight each other and cause damage in the street.

“When they get aggravated  they like to go outside to calm down,” Niki shrugs.

Police finally handed the teenage louts two-year ASBOs last month to try to put a stop to their anti-social behaviour.

Shockingly, the boys say they feel hard done by and moan about the order’s conditions. It bans them from going to certain streets and the local shopping parade and have a strict curfew between 10pm and 6am.

Corey says: “We’ve been given the ASBO for silly things like picking neighbours’ flowers. I only take them when I want to give a bunch to my mum!

“At first I thought the ASBO was wicked – I asked people if they wanted my autograph after my picture was in the local paper. But I didn’t get my place at college and I’m now getting death threats on Facebook.”

Their outraged mother adds: “The ASBO stops them doing what they want and Corey won’t be able to go out and celebrate his 18th birthday.”

Niki blames her sons’ behaviour on teachers for not giving them enough help.

“They never dealt with the boys in the right way,” she says. “Everything I asked them to do they didn’t – John needed more attention and extra work. He was bright and was getting bored.”

But Niki denies that as their mother, it’s her responsibility to ensure her children behave.

“I’ve done my best. I’m not a crap mum,” she whines. “The police and social services are always checking up on me.”

Unsurprisingly, Niki is all in favour of ministers’ plans to scrap ASBOs after statistics suggested that louts see them
as a badge of honour.

“The ASBO is pointless,” she moans. “My boys are not just naughty kids – they need help rather than an ASBO.

“People have called my kids dumb, but I’m proud of them. Corey is a caring boy and John’s last school report was glowing.”

Corey says: “I used to go out looking for a fight but I’ve been good recently and I’ve stopped smoking weed.”

John, who attends a Pupil Referral Unit, a centre for pupils unable to attend mainstream school, adds: “I hate being called the ASBO kid. People think I’m rough. If anyone should get an ASBO, Mum should!”

Closer’s Dr Christian Jessen says: “With good parenting and schooling there is no reason ADHD should lead to an ASBO. It’s no excuse for this kind of behaviour.”

By Jocelyn Cook

Posted by Hel 1983

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Typical! Just another dead beat mum who does the absolute minimum with her kids and then tries to blame everyone and everything else when they turn out to be thugs. People like this shouldn't be allowed to have children.

Posted 21/09/2010 10:26:09

Posted by geenie123

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

i love the way shes blaming everyone she can think of to make her kids sound hard done by and saying they are such nice kids and then you read at the end of the story her son says "If anyone should get an ASBO, Mum should!” hahahaha dont think the feelings mutual between you and your little darlings luv

Posted 21/09/2010 11:12:09

Posted by sugar sweet

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

i think ADHD is being used more and more as a prop to blame bad parenting, disruptive kids and bad behaviour on! the symptoms of ADHD are mainly being unable to focus or concentrate, getting bored and fidgetty quickly and being impatient! so why is ADHD an excuse to throw dog poo at neighbours and terrorise everyone?
it can be controlled with drugs and good parenting as the doc says there is no excuse!

Posted 21/09/2010 11:22:41

Posted by sugar sweet

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

just read the bit about him smoking weed as well! if anything is going to make a physcological condition worse that will! grrrrrrr why do these people always play the victim!

Posted 21/09/2010 11:40:57

Posted by Polly99

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Pity a nice little job can't be found for mum and older son and we could pay to re-locate them to the Arctic region! All 3 are not fit be living in a populated area.

Posted 21/09/2010 14:02:41

Posted by Jen_08

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

I really hate it when someone leaves a comment about "these type of people dont deserve to have kids" i think it's a horrible comment to make about anymore just because they have read one article on the internet about them. How can you judge a person by one thing?.

I dont actually believe there is a thing such as ADHD, i used to go to a special school, and i was the only sane one there, the rest did smoke drugs, and throw chairs at the teachers, and they had intelligence, its just they didnt bother to use it, they liked to act hard, and bully, and not listen to anyone, but most where nice once u got to know them, they just didnt want to bother with much.

Posted 21/09/2010 21:22:56

Posted by DVbaby

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

i understand where this mother is coming from when she says that her children are blamed if anything is thrown around the class room its thier fult whhen its not but you cant balme it on a dissorder that affects childre or adults diffrenently.... ADHD is thrown around like its a game, but when you look at it these children need a father figure (sorry if i offend anyone when i say that) there is no mentenon of there father

Posted 21/09/2010 21:46:49

Posted by primo

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

people like that family make me so mad! i have severe combined adhd but have never had an asbo, its cos of people like her that nobody takes the condition seriously, i take my medication everyday and dont take illegal drugs...just because someone behaves badly doesnt mean they have a medical condition in the same way that just because someone has adhd doesnt mean they're a thug! there is alot of confusion and misunderstanding about the condition but in reality its something totally different to what shes describing and trust me i know as i live with it lol!

Posted 21/09/2010 22:40:27

Posted by n.s

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Well said primo, and I hope your medication is making things easier for you. This family is everything that is wrong
with our society. Both parents not working (not that there is
anything wrong with being unemployed at the moment if you
are seriously looking for work) but I honestly can't imagine this woman falling into that category. These kids have have obviously not been taught how to behave in public, and how anti social behavour is totally unacceptable. A mother that
really doesn't think their behavour is wrong and makes rediculous excuses for them is a diabolical role model for her kids. At the moment if nothing changes all her kids will go from bad to worse, she's already giving her daughters the red light to behave in exactly the same way. It's a disgrace, and the only people I feel really sorry for in this
story are their poor neighbours.

Posted 22/09/2010 09:17:51

Posted by squidge_05

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Niki, who is also mum to sports instructor and ADHD sufferer Kyle, 20, even suspects her daughters Joni, 13, and Summer, two months, also have the condition.

...so she was 7 when she had her first child?????????????,

Posted 22/09/2010 14:30:01

Posted by McConn

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

This is an insult.
Its an insult to me, its an insult to my parents and most of all its an insult to my brother who has ADHD. Its true that this is a misunderstood condition but there is no way that it should be used as a scapegoat for this sort of behaviour!! I look at these boys and I look at my 15 year old brother who is maturing into a polite, well mannered and sincere young man. He has already found his vocation and knows exactly what he wants to do with his life already. He is such a hard worker and I am immensley proud of him and stories like this are demeaning to people like him. It gives people with ADHD a reputation for being loud, disruptive and violent. The problem lies with bad parenting, parents tend to whine about their children's behaviour but never try to set any boundaries or curfews for them to adhere to. There is no way that these boy's teachers should be held responsible for their behaviour. Its the parents that bring the children up not the teachers.

Posted 22/09/2010 20:58:44

Posted by stefani6938

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

i know a very good family whos son has been diagnosed with adhd, and he is taking medication and they look after him so well, he is such a good kid... the fact that this woman is blaming their bad behavior on this health problem is disgusting. the kids have said in the end of the artical that she should have the asbo!! she must be an excellent role model. obviously following in her footsteps... STOP TRYING TO GET SYMPATHY YOU STUPID WOMAN AND SORT YOUR LIFE OUT

Posted 23/09/2010 02:36:41

Posted by uglymug

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

The mum's got more of a mental health problem than her five kids! She's probably saying they all have ADHD so when they're older it can be another reason not to go to work "oh but I have ADHD i can't work cause i can't hold down a job" that's what will happen. What kind of mum lets her kids do that to people, let alone just their neighbours?! It's just a joke, Haha mising his 18th Birthday, what a shame, well maybe if you were a good enough mum, your son could celebrate it, it's all about how you're brought up, in school/at home/who you hang around me. So maybe they could of got more help in school, but there's no justifying what they did, it's disgusting, no wonder why they're not learnig anything, their mum's a thicko.

Posted 23/09/2010 14:27:00

Posted by pwincessjane

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

This woman is quite clever, i think she should write a book for the rest of us to learn how to blag the system,and be paid a living for it. ADHD is not a disability, it is a condition, that can be managed, personally i don;t think she should be allowed to breed any more, no use to society, in a few years her offspring will be breeding,its time the government stopped giving benefits to this growing breed of uncivilised scroungers.

Posted 25/09/2010 19:25:51

Posted by JackieS

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

I wonder if 12 months of national service would still see the lad(s) suffering from ADHD.? I doubt it, it seems just another excuse for kids to commit bad behaviour, who's parents can't or don't bother about them. Both parents are a waste of oxygen.
How many kids out there on ASBO's are from your working families & how many from families living off benefits who won't get their butts out the door to do a decent days work?
I don't think the mother has a mental health problem, that would be an insult to the genuine ones, not to mention another excuse to claim yet more benefits.

Posted 10/10/2010 13:32:05

Posted by peainapod

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

“I’ve done my best. I’m not a crap mum,” she whines. “The police and social services are always checking up on me.”

Yeah you're right, all us 'normal mothers' who don't let our kids bully the neighborhood are always having social services and the police 'checking up' on us ! LOL

The scum of society.

Posted 24/12/2010 00:08:30

Posted by peainapod

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Well my children don't have a father figure, its just me and them and they dont act like that ! They're well behaved, well mannered children ! Nobody is perfect but this woman is a disgrace. And all she's done is create more children who will turn out to be more of a disgrace, because that's all they'll know growing up, poor things !

Posted 24/12/2010 00:13:17

Posted by quingle

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

Having ADHD is not an excuse for acting like this (even if they do have it). Pity the neighbours, they sound like they've gone through hell with these kids. They should be able to prosecute people like this for a total lack of parenting.

Posted 07/05/2011 12:11:18

Posted by AbbyBaby!

RE: 'My ASBO kids are just misunderstood’

ADHD is used as an excuse. The REAL disease is described in the name and is when children or adults have trouble concentrating and sitting still etc, etc. NOT for little hooligans who can behave. They dont have an illness they are simply badly behaved children. It disgusts me that people use ADHD as a poor excuse nowadays.

Posted 29/01/2012 16:14:43



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