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'I can only have sex outdoors'

Tuesday 17 November 2009

When Danielle Vincely asks new boyfriends if they fancy going outside for sex they’re usually happy to oblige.

But the thrill of romping in the fresh air soon wears off once Danielle reveals she suffers a bizarre phobia that prevents her from having sex indoors.

And Danielle, 24, says her sexual claustrophobia ruins her love life as partners soon tire of her adventurous sex demands on beaches, parks and football pitches – which have landed her in trouble with police.

“I can only get turned on when I’m out in the fresh air and looking up at the sky,” she explains. “I’ve tried having sex indoors, but I get panicky and nauseous and have to stop.”

Shop worker Danielle, from Portsmouth, has suffered the problem since losing her virginity at 18 to her first boyfriend Luke*, who she’d been dating for four months. Real Life

“I’d dreamed my first time would be perfect and romantic, but I hated every moment,” she reveals. “I loved him and wanted to enjoy it, but as we had sex I felt panicky and wanted it to be over. I hated being sweaty and it just felt unnatural.”

At first, Danielle put her reaction down to inexperience. “I kept quiet because I didn’t want to upset my boyfriend,” she explains.

It was only during a drunken night-time fumble outside in a park two months later that Danielle found she could enjoy sex.

“We had sex under the stars. It was mind-blowing,” she recalls. “I loved the feeling of wet grass underneath and I really let go!”

But each time Luke tried to get close to Danielle indoors she’d push him away. “He kept asking if there was something wrong,” she says. “I told him I felt claustrophobic when we had sex inside and could only enjoy it outdoors.”

The couple, who met at college, then planned unusual locations to have sex. Danielle says: “We’d drive to the seaside to make love in sand dunes, or we’d sneak on to our local football pitch at night. It was a huge rush knowing we risked getting caught. That’s part of the thrill.”

But the excitement wore off for Luke, and after eight months he ended things. “He thought I wasn’t trying hard enough to enjoy sex indoors,” says Danielle. “We argued all the time and then split up.” Real Life

Since then, Danielle’s only had one other serious relationship – but got dumped after five months because of her unusual habit.

“I convinced him to have sex on the flat roof of my parents’ house,” says Danielle, who still lives at home. “It was too much for him. He couldn’t deal with it.”

Shockingly, Danielle’s been caught by a police officer romping naked in a park with a man she’d met at a nightclub hours earlier.

“We got a warning for indecent exposure,” she laughs. “I thought it was funny, but he was mortified.”

Despite these difficulties, Danielle continues to have sex outdoors and says she’s not put off by rain or freezing cold weather. Real Life

But she refuses to seek medical help or counselling for her problem, saying: “I’m hoping I might just grow out of it.”

She’s been seeing her current man for two months. “I was open with him from the start,” she adds. “He’s very understanding, even when we were cautioned by police for having sex up against a tree!”

But she admits she has no idea how long he’ll put up with her unorthodox habits. She says: “At the moment he’s enjoying the thrill, but let’s see if he gets fed up.”

Closer’s sexpert Tracey Cox says: Danielle can easily have counselling so that she finds sex indoors enjoyable. But she needs to get it sorted because the longer the situation goes on the harder it will be to fix it.”

By Victoria Raymond